LOVE

Dear blogger,
       Ever feel like the "love of your life" is truly the one that's going to break you? The one that you picture your life with but can't figure out how to make it work? That's where I am stuck.... I am 130% over the heals in love with this boy, but when you live "day by day" is there any room for change?

     Obviously in every relationship you make sacrifices... but is it really worth it?

      I think it is..


      When you're completely in love with someone, it's for the things that you like about them, not for the things they did before they met you.. The past is a scary thing to look at, yes.. but not knowing about it means you're only infatuated with a person, not truly in love. If you don't completely know them, then there will always be a missing piece.

      That is what I am going to write about...
                         "The Questions of Love"


       Now, by no means am I an expert, hell, I'm nowhere close to it, but love can be blinding.. So I think it's good to look at it from an outsiders prospective. When you are "in love" you will do anything to make things work so it doesn't ever stop feeling as amazing as it does in that moment; but why just settle with making it work? Shouldn't it all be easy if you love that person? Making it work sounds like you are doubtful, inconsistent, maybe even worried.

      Another thing I love hearing couples say is "I put in more effort." HA! What does that even mean? Relationships (to me) should be a 50/50 thing. If you're okay with putting in the most effort, then you truly don't value yourself as an individual. You are one of the people that will always be a "we" and not an "I" ; and that's not flattering. You need to learn how to live a life you love, not love the one who gives you life. Yes, it's amazing to have someone always on your side, your right hand man (or woman) but putting in more effort just means that you want it more than your partner does.

      Ever walk down the street, or through a mall/ store and hear someone say, why don't you do that for me? And their reply is "I used to" .. There should never be a "used to" in a relationship.. That's why they never really work out anymore.. Too many people are forcing someone to like them and once things finally take off they're not the same person.. You need to find someone that looks at you five years later the same way they did the first day they saw you. You may not know what their initial look was like, but you definitely know the look I'm talking about.


      These are all scenarios that means you're truly not in love.  
      And that's okay. When you find that special person, you'll know it.

Thinking Out Cloud

Today I want to post about depression. I know, I know ... everyone probably posts about it. That they are there for you. There is no reason to be sad. How can they help? That's all you ever hear. Well, I am going to post off of personal experience.
Although you would love for someone to say that everything is going to get better; as a depressed person it would take the slightest miracle to believe that. It's not even the fact that you don't want to accept the statement, it's that you don't know where to begin.
When you're depressed, there is no one way that you feel.
You can look like the happiest person in the world but inside you dont feel worth anything: you're sad, pissed, angry, you wanna cry, your thoughts are scattered. This is the reason someone who is depressed can't shake the feeling that death is their only way out.
To define depression in the easiest way is to say that depression is like drowning but you see everyone around you breathing. The world doesn't stop just because you aren't feeling yourself. This is another reason why depression is so hard to shake.
So, how do you help someone who is depressed ?
Don't tell them they are wrong, DO NOT try and compare yourself to them. Simply tell them that you truly are there for them. If someone comes out to you and says "Hey, I'm not feeling myself, I feel depressed." it means that they already trust the fact that you will know how to help them. These are the people who want to find a way out. They want to be themselves. Their old self at that. Be the best friend that you can be at that time and you will be sure to help save a life ! {;
Life really is beautiful, you just have to realize it. 

What's your story?

What we speak to ourselves is what we listen to the most. Sadly, that is the reality we tend to live as humans. If you tell yourself you’re not good enough, or smart or pretty or fun enough, you will start to believe it. So why not wake up in the morning and tell yourself  ”Hey, today is going to be a good day!” or “Today, I am going to try something new.” Yes, new is sometimes scary; but in the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take. So why not take a chance? Go sing in the rain. Go try on that pair of heals that you love and just dance! Go take a chance on yourself. Create a story that you will be proud of. A story about life and your experiences. Because, well, experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn.