Dear blogger,
Ever feel like the "love of your life" is truly the one that's going to break you? The one that you picture your life with but can't figure out how to make it work? That's where I am stuck.... I am 130% over the heals in love with this boy, but when you live "day by day" is there any room for change?
Obviously in every relationship you make sacrifices... but is it really worth it?
I think it is..
When you're completely in love with someone, it's for the things that you like about them, not for the things they did before they met you.. The past is a scary thing to look at, yes.. but not knowing about it means you're only infatuated with a person, not truly in love. If you don't completely know them, then there will always be a missing piece.
That is what I am going to write about...
"The Questions of Love"
Now, by no means am I an expert, hell, I'm nowhere close to it, but love can be blinding.. So I think it's good to look at it from an outsiders prospective. When you are "in love" you will do anything to make things work so it doesn't ever stop feeling as amazing as it does in that moment; but why just settle with making it work? Shouldn't it all be easy if you love that person? Making it work sounds like you are doubtful, inconsistent, maybe even worried.
Another thing I love hearing couples say is "I put in more effort." HA! What does that even mean? Relationships (to me) should be a 50/50 thing. If you're okay with putting in the most effort, then you truly don't value yourself as an individual. You are one of the people that will always be a "we" and not an "I" ; and that's not flattering. You need to learn how to live a life you love, not love the one who gives you life. Yes, it's amazing to have someone always on your side, your right hand man (or woman) but putting in more effort just means that you want it more than your partner does.
Ever walk down the street, or through a mall/ store and hear someone say, why don't you do that for me? And their reply is "I used to" .. There should never be a "used to" in a relationship.. That's why they never really work out anymore.. Too many people are forcing someone to like them and once things finally take off they're not the same person.. You need to find someone that looks at you five years later the same way they did the first day they saw you. You may not know what their initial look was like, but you definitely know the look I'm talking about.
These are all scenarios that means you're truly not in love.
And that's okay. When you find that special person, you'll know it.
